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We all deal with this. We all suffer from this condition of what do with sex in our stories.
Sex in stories seems to be an aspect of life as a writer, because it is an aspect of life as a whole.
How we deal with it however, is a whole other thing, do we give a blow by blow of every dirty little thing they do or do we try to obscure what is going on with symbolic words?
Well I suppose if we do the former we are writing erotic stories and then the answer is quite simple what we are going to about that sex scene, add it in, perhaps expound on it, drop some good explicit adverbs and adjectives, maybe devote a chapter to the after glow and a solid two paragraphs to the foreplay.
After all, if people are offended by a good no holds barred sex scene, perhaps they should not read erotic fiction then, and go back to the Disney Books where they belong.
What about if we want to obscure the situation?
Well more often then not we face the risk of Purple Prose getting in the way or even winning a wonderful Bulwer-Lytton award or maybe you might win a “bad sex scene” award. So what!
Lets me honest here, there are many symbolic things that relate to the sexual regions and we as people have a very open mind when it comes to these things, I mean even something as simple as “and then they had sex” gets all the point we need across to us. We are geared in that direction, See?
We slammed, banging, boffing, doing the hunka-chunka, riding, horizontal mobo, boinking, porking, Bump&Grind, blah, blah, blah, and a whole list of other terms and phrases can be found to mean having sex. Here is a site that just made me Laugh. The Euphemism Generator. and if that was not enough, enjoy the Slang Dictionary.
So fear not, our minds are very easy to get the idea of sex across to us, don’t fret too much with that. Just get the idea out there, set the situation and if need be, fade to black is always a good way to leave the situation.
Remember, when you write these scenes, at your very worst you can get an award for it, at the best you get a happy (even slightly aroused) reader for it
Just keep in mind that how you write your scene is dependent on the genre you are writing.
Which is part of the art of being a writer, always!
Don’t let anyone intimidate you. Write what you imagine, don’t force it on someone else’s say so. Write what you feel would convey the best scene. After all, who is writing this story?
Imply Fearlessly!
Take pride in all you do! Loosing some races does not mean the game is over! Keep running no matter what! 
